We often suffer from fear and anxiety due to lack of confidence. If we can strive to understand ourselves and our surroundings, and be prepared in advance, there is no need to fear. Fear won't help at all.
Modern communication being so rapid causes people much anxiety and nightmares; they cannot feel relaxed as long as there is social disorder throughout the world. This is true whether one experiences this directly or indirectly, whether it concerns the self, family, society, country, political/economic life, or religious belief. As long as the situation affects one’s personal safety or peril, gain or loss, success or failure, people cannot sit back and relax For Emotional Problems, Ethics is the Best Way I frequently encounter people who seem to be trapped in a fire, and who come for help. Generally, I listen to their problems, know what their anxieties are, but I don't let their problems become my own nightmares. The advice I give them is: for emotional problems, ethics is the best solution. Even if something major happens, you should take time to resolve and mitigate it. If it is a truly unavoidable misfortune, then you can only face it and accept it; by facing and accepting it, you are dealing with it. Since it is already dealt with, then there is no reason to worry about it, so let go of it. Don't constantly think, “ What should I do?” Just sleep as before, eat as before, and live as you ought to live. If one deals with sentimental problems emotionally, and tries to use rationality with family problems, that would be like putting out a fire with gasoline, or using arguments to solve an argument. It can only make the situation worse. One should have compassion and be thoughtful of the other party when dealing with relationships; otherwise, not only does one offend the other party, one would have out for oneself. When dealing with matters, apply wisdom and handle the problems from an objective view. Once the problems are made objective, one can see clearly the best way to deal with them. If one has to choose one of two options, then first clarify their relative importance and urgency, then decide which one can
Chen: Human suffer from two major psychological impediments: fear and anxiety. When caught up in fear and anxiety, people are often unable to make the right decision. Either they are indecisive, overly cautious, and lacking in resolution, or they are rash and impatient, often making hasty decisions. How can we eliminate anxiety and fear, and stay calm and unruffled? Let us ask Master Sheng Yen for guidance. The reason why fear and anxiety emerge Master Sheng Yen: In fact, human suffer from many psychological afflictions, not just fear and anxiety. We are apt to lose our emotional balance; we tend to feel insecure and at a loss, not knowing which way to turn, how to face the future or the present. Fear and anxiety emerge because we lack self-confidence, or we can say it's because we aren't clear about our current or future situation. They are related: a person lacks self-confidence because he doesn't understand his social role, his standpoint, and his abilities. He doesn't know what will happen in the future. People first begin to feel insecure when they are children. And it's not just humans; animals also want security. Worrying all the time? When there's no rain, we worry it’ll rain; when the sky is overcast, we worry about the blazing sun; we worry that it might start to rain or become windy when we go out. Will we get hit by a car? We don't know for sure about that either. People worry about this and that all the time, and end up becoming suspicious of everything. Before going out, some people will pray and ask the gods or Buddha for some guidance. Some smart people know about astrology, or the eight hexagrams of the Book of Changes, with which they'll do some divination. Only when they finish doing this are they sure they can go out. Such people are paranoid and suspicious of everything. Every day, before going out, many people spend time preparing for this and that to make sure that the