To Practice the “Happy Secret Code of Love”: couples participate in lecture before DDM’s Buddhist-style joint wedding
At 10 o’clock in the morning of December 14th, DDM’s Yun Lai Monastery in the Beitou District was filled with a strong sense of happiness. Over a hundred newlyweds who will participate in the 19th Buddhist-style joint wedding attended a lecture before the formal ceremony. They watched the video of the DDM founder, the late Venerable Master Sheng Yen, to underline the practice of the protection of the spiritual environment. Moreover, DDM arranged three professional lecturers to deliver a speech named “Happy Secret Code of Love”. It aimed to guide the newlyweds to spread the seeds of Bodhi amid marriage and prepare themselves for jointly building a happy family.
What is the secret code for true love? What are the elements for a long-lasting marriage? During the discussion in the afternoon, inspired by the lecturers, these newlyweds presented some great adages including: “a family should be based on mutual respect rather than argument,” “mind should be undisturbed by circumstances,” “mutual trust without doubt,” “don’t memorize others’ drawbacks,” “communication like flowing water will be durable,” “practice gratitude and repentance frequently,” and “put down the ego,”. It is considered that only if the Buddha Dharma can be put into practice in our daily life could disputes between couples be smoothly solved. Keeping this principle in mind: “harmony without disputes” will make every family happy and prosperous.
Brent from the U.S. said that he has studied Buddha Dharma for ten years, and he thought the lecturers today gave him a good reminder to solve the problems of life by the teaching: “Four Steps for Handling a Problem: Face it, Accept it, Deal with it, Let it go” of the late Venerable Master Sheng Yen. His wife-to-be, Li Hung-Hui said disputes happened very easily in preparing the wedding ceremony, however, after attending the lecture, she rediscovered the reason why they decide to get married, and when facing conflict, she will apply the Buddha Dharma to solve problems.
“I will learn how to listen to his thoughts.” the newlywed, Huang Yi-Hsuan said. It is ordinary for people who come from different family backgrounds to have diversified thoughts and manners. Nevertheless, mutual consideration and tolerance is necessary in a relationship. Chen Jing-Ren, who serves as a policeman, said he will respect his spouse’s thoughts and believed the Buddha Dharma will purify his mind and bring serenity to his life.
Venerable Chang Yi, the coordinator of the event, reminded the newlyweds that “it takes a thousand years to acquire a good marriage”. A Buddhist-style joint wedding is the beginning of the marriage among which given the common religious faith, those couples will share ultimate support, better communication and sincere care. She also encouraged the newlyweds to be “Bodhi-couples”, to practice Buddha Dharma jointly, and be close to the Three Jewels of Buddhism. Only if the Buddha Dharma is put into practice in daily life will the marriage endure long.
The next DDM Buddhist-style joint wedding will be held in the DDM World Centre for Buddhist Education on January 11th, 2014. There will be 64 couples from the U.S., Hong Kong, Malaysia, and Taiwan jointly greeting happiness under the blessing of the Three Jewels.
(Translated by Tom Hsieh/Edited by DDM Australia Editing Team)